A running guide of what NOT to do. The first iteration of Tim's Ta-Don't List was a goodbye gift from Foresight's summer staff person Rachel Young, left behind on my whiteboard. Now, I'm keeping it going with weekly updates, in the spirit of better, more impactful change-making.
1. DON’T conflate systems change with large scale. Transforming complex systems requires building capacity at all levels—from the grassroots on up. To forget this can lead to top-heavy, inaccessible processes.
2. DON’T miss an opportunity to color curate your jellybeans. Consider this a motto: Design in all things!
3. DON’T just give your time and money to the usual (largest, most visible) suspects. Dig deeper, and discover the organizations whose fights began long before our current crises, and with much less access to resources.
4. DON’T be afraid to pet a puppy, if you see one on the street that needs petting. These are the self care strategies that sustain our work over the long haul.
5. DON’T rush to resolve your cognitive dissonance. We all feel the disjuncture between our actions, and who we believe ourselves to be. Inhabit this discomfort–it’s fertile ground for transformation, and our eagerness to leave it behind us often inflicts harm.
6. DON'T waste energy on avoidance. It takes significant work (mental and emotional) to keep our worries at bay. Instead, externalize your deepest fears by writing them down, or sharing them with friends and colleagues. Then they can no longer control you.
7. DON'T miss out on opportunities to make change with style. For example: An eye-catching reusable bag draws attention and starts conversations—transforming your individual consumer choice into a potentially more catalytic culture shift.
8. DON'T fetishize your tools. Whether a technical device like GIS systems, or a framework like collective impact, a resource is not a methodology, and the most impactful methodologies incorporate others' fresh insights, and evolve to meet the needs of each unique challenge.
9. DON'T hesitate to eavesdrop. As an intern (or even as an established professional), remaining attentive to your environment and your colleagues' (public!) conversations is the most efficient and effective way to learn about a new workplace and broader field.
10. DON'T delay responding simply because you don't know what to say. Most of the time, the people waiting to hear from you will prefer an imperfect message to silence.
11. DON'T forget to make a "car agenda." Long drives can be considered a gift of time and, if undertaken with colleagues, attention. Come prepared to make the most of it, by floating that idea you've been meaning to share, initiating a brainstorm, or working your way through your call list.
12. DON'T speak. Not immediately, or at least not always. Working with the high school student participants of the Foresight Prep @ Oberlin College summer program, I have learned that if I curb my urge to fill every silence, young people will rise to the occasion with unexpected insights.
13. DON'T extinguish young people's fire. Revolutionary dreams require direction (& methods, tools, resources...), not derailment.
14. DON'T use your dry erase markers on chart paper. It will ruin them.
15. DON'T withhold your own vision and values when collaborating with people who possess less power. Silence is the flipside of domination, and can be equally patronizing. Whether working with youth or community residents, building authentic relationships includes both listening and sharing.
16. DON'T neglect community care in the pursuit of self care. Breaks, vacations and sabbaticals are essential, but if we want social and environmental change work to be about more than just the grind, we need to create mechanisms to support one another, not just ourselves, with ongoing healing, celebration and restoration.
17. DON'T mistake passion for meaningful content. My Foresight Prep @ Oberlin students frequently speak highly of guest speakers that they experience as "passionate." But I believe that what they're actually reacting to is the authority that comes from lived experience. Some who exhibit passion have deep credibility, while others have very little. I tell my students: DO develop the judgment to distinguish between the two.
18. DON'T propagate the narrative that there are "two sides to every story." Appreciating complexity means recognizing there are multiple stories, some of which should not be granted legitimacy.
19. DON'T seek to solve the cluster of crescents in the lattice of your fingers. The slack-jawed Pac-man becoming banana becoming nail clipping, tiny yellow tear in the black. The black portal, haloed by glow. Let the mystery be. Let yourself be small.
20. DON'T neglect insights from the past while innovating toward a more sustainable future. In light of the current crisis in Texas, Ta-Don't Number 3 remains especially relevant.
21. DON'T show up without doing your homework, but don't spend so long on your homework that you fail to show up.
22. DON'T look to numbers to tell you what to do. Define your vision, then determine the numbers that will tell you whether you've achieved it.
23. DON'T resist opportunities to learn and grow through critique, but do not grant one person's perspective the power to determine your impact and worth.